Just as
your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther
when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your
thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.
Brian Tracy
Brian Tracy
At the end of this summer I was in an airport and I realized
that although I had a book I was reading on my kindle, I was not going to be
able to have my electronic device out for collectively about half an hour upon
take off and landing so I went to the newsstand to grab a paper to read. The
papers were sold out so I checked out magazines and right next to that was a little
stand with this paperback book called The
Untethered Soul. It had a beautiful cover, (and I must admit, I do judge
books by their covers quite a bit). It also had an endorsement by Deepak Chopra
that read, “Read this book carefully and you will get more than a glimpse of
eternity.” Intriguing, I like to think that I pick up what Deepak puts down
most of the time so I thought I would check it out.
What a beautiful gem I had stumbled across! I ended up
ditching the kindle that day altogether and was glued to this very simple and
straightforward book about what the author Michael Singer refers to as “the
journey beyond yourself.”
(If you are at all interested but don’t see yourself sitting
down and reading an entire book on the subject he has also written a great
article for the Huffington Post condensing his wisdom in 12 easy steps!)
I enjoyed the whole book and from the dog eared pages and
notes in the margins this book already looks like it has been worn out and loved like
an old blanket. Being a Reiki Master I was drawn to one chapter in particular over
and over again entitled Infinite Energy. I am always
intrigued to learn how different people explain this energy, this life force we
all have within us. Something we are all so unconsciously aware of but yet its
affect on us is profound. Energy is in and all around us everywhere.
The Institute
of Heart Math has done extensive research on how energy affects emotional
balance and health. If you are interested check out the website to access all
the readings they provide, it is fascinating work. http://www.heartmath.org/research/science-of-the-heart/introduction.html
We have several “energetic centers” in our body but none as
well known as the heart. What do you do when you hear bad news? Instinctively your
hand comes up to cover your heart. What do you feel when you watch your child accomplish
something great? Your heart swells with emotion. What is it like when someone
you love walks in or out of your life? You feel it in your heart. What happens
when you witness or think about something truly frightening? Your heart starts
beating rapidly. Our thoughts can literally create different energy within us.
Our thoughts and feelings have psychological and
physiological affects on our heart. That energy, even though it cannot be
measured is very real. Michael Singer writes, “The yogi’s call the energy
centers chakras. When you close your heart center, energy can’t flow
in. When energy can’t flow in there’s darkness. Depending upon how closed you
are, you either feel tremendous disturbance or overwhelming lethargy.”
So those times when you are “off” and exhausted and no
matter how much red bull you drink nothing changes is because you are closed
off. You can even see it in someone’s posture. Head down, shoulder’s hunched,
dull look in their eyes could possibly mean heart closed. In the same respect when you see
someone head high, smiling, shoulders back that could indicate heart open. When you are
in this open state, just as red bulls don’t affect your mood when you are
closed, you find that you can go for longer periods of time with less food
because your energy is what is sustaining you. Ever get into a project you feel
passionate about only to look up 6 hours later and realized you haven eaten all
day and you are not even hungry? Since most of us don’t live in that “sweet
spot” of total coherence between activating and reacting to our sympathetic and
our parasympathetic systems, (or our fight or flight), we are either allowing
energy in or we are closing it off most of the time.
Sometimes because of the world we live in closing it off
“feels right.” We are so used to closing for what we believe are self
preservation purposes that we don’t even realize we are doing it. How many
times before you are going to be in a certain situation or with certain people
do you “brace yourself” for the evening ahead? So before we even leave the
house we are tense and uptight. This can ware on our hearts after living like this
for extended periods of time especially
if this is the way we feel before we get to work day in and day out. Our poor
hearts can’t handle it! They try to give us warnings that show up as signs of
stress and anxiety but instead of changing our minds we pop pills. This is a short-term
fix and eventually it is not going to be enough. You either start popping more
pills or feed the addiction in other ways or you listen to the gift your body
is giving you with these signs and do something about it.
What to do to change things? Start to have openhearted
awareness in your day. When do you feel relaxed and open and joyful? When you
find yourself in that moment where you are completely comfortable in your own
skin and your breathing is regulated and your heart beat is steady and even
take note. Where are you and what are you doing and who are you with? Now
harness that and take a little “soulshot” with your spirit camera and remember
that feeling. Start to draw on that when you need to get back to that place.
Even if that just means consciously making the decision to not close off. Think
about it, we close off to protect ourselves but it only ends up making us feel
bad, not the people who we are “protecting” ourselves from! Like that old
saying its like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to die! That
aint gonna happen! The next time you are in the position where you want to
close off ask yourself, “Are these people or is this situation worth putting
all of that excess stress on my beautiful heart?” The answer is always no. Don’t succumb to energetic set
backs because of some jack in the box who doesn’t get it. Shoulders back,
breath even and steady, heartbeat regulated. Choose it! Choose you. It is your
birthright to feel whole. It takes practice and patience and occasional
setbacks. But we are all capable of living in a state of joyful and open-
hearted awareness. We all deserve to live whole, enthusiastic, and joyful
lives. We cannot avoid stress but we can choose how we handle our stressors.
This is who we really are.